When I feel aligned with myself, I am more productive and I feel more alive and fulfilled. Becoming self aligned is a multi step journey of clarification and discovery. Is there a part of you that you want to feel more aligned around?
I use an intuitive embodied and relational approach to help you to have a better relationship with yourself. In conversation together, we observe the way you currently relate to yourself, find ways that you might be working against your own mind and help you to explore new ways of being in the world.
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Hey my name is Eliot Redelman, I live in Sydney, Australia and I coach online via zoom.
You can book a time to meet on my calendar. I believe that if we want to work together, we need to meet and check for therapeutic fit. Coaching works best when we get down to it, instead of talking about talking about doing it. Because I believe in this active approach, the first session is free so that you can see how I work. Book now!
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How is your Self-Relationship?
Do any of these match your experience?
- I hate myself
- I’m frustrated that I can’t seem to get anywhere
- I’m making myself depressed
- I make myself work hard
- I feel like a slave
- I’m tired of feeling tired
These self relationships are energy depleting and have a negative emotional tone to them.
When I force myself to work, that means another part of me is feeling that force. Without even realising it, I find myself under pressure and not enjoying what I am doing. This is an example of a personal bind. People have many personal binds that block them from having a positive, productive, enjoyable life. By examining our self relationship, we can stop getting trapped in these binds and have a more enjoyable relationship with ourselves. For example:
- I am kind to myself
- I am my biggest advocate
- I care about my needs
- I love what I do
- I help myself succeed
- I reward myself for my hard work
- I love myself
Is this the kind of relationship you want to be having with yourself? These self relationships are energy bringing and positive valence towards ourselves.
When I first examined the way “I forced myself to work”, and I considered taking the pressure of the force out of my efforts, I was worried that I would never be productive without the force and pressure. When I decided to experiment with reducing the force, I found that I could be more productive because I felt less pressure about the work, so working was easier. Gently working with my concerns enabled me to work harder overall and feel happier about it!
If this method sounds too obvious, and too easy, and unimpressive then good! I’ve explained it clearly. If you tried it while you were reading and felt a positive shift, then great! I have a toolbox full of methods that add together to my idea of living a wonderful life.
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